Our Mind is a Garden
Imagine your mind as a garden. Within it are rows of seeds that have been planted, germinated, blooming and coming to fruition. These are the seeds of your thoughts, your dreams, your reality. This is your garden. Only seeds you allow in will grow here. If a weed begins to grow we have the power to pluck it with love and grace and allow space for a bountiful seed to fill its place.
Now, imagine your actions are the nutrients and your seeds are your thoughts. The more your actions align with your thoughts, the more you seed is taken care of to grow to fruition. If our thoughts and actions are out of tune, weeds may grown and our seeds may become overrun.
These weeds may constitute as negative beliefs, curses, toxic habits, self-sabotaging behavior, excuses, resentment, guilt, blame, shame, attachment, fear…. and the list goes on and on. These weeds can be very harmful to the health and integrity of the whole garden. For this article, we will be discussing how to recognize weeds rooted in anger.
Weeds and Roots
When we do not feel it to heal it, where does it go?
Our body is regulated by our emotions and our emotions can stay in motion or reside in our body to become residual pain. If they become stored in the body and we do not feel it to heal it, it is harbored somewhere. So where? Our Organs of course; 90% of resentment is stored in the Gallbladder whereas 90% of anger is stored in the Liver. Our emotions are released upon experiencing an event, whether that event is past, present or future.
When we revisit an event through a memory, our body biochemically relives the past event. Emotionally we experience the emotions tied to that event, and when an event has upset us in any way, we may have a tendency to attach to it, especially the outcome. We emotionally choose events we know we can predict by recreating past events in the present moment.
Our future becomes more predictable and we feel more at ease. But what happens when unforseen things happen? What triggers us to become aggressive or highly stressed suddenly when something unexpected happens? Expectations, but not just expectations… failed expectations.
Anger is a response to a failed expectation. We anticipate events and how they unfold in order to help ourselves anticipate any potential threats to our survival. Our ability to revisit memories grants us the capacity to think ahead of what may be coming. Our response to a situation through our meaning behind the response is what allows us to attach an emotion to an event.
When we attach ourselves to an emotion tied to an event, we begin attaching ourselves to that emotion. The more we attach ourselves to an emotion, the more familiar it becomes. The more comfortable we feel when we experience that emotion and the more we want to reproduce the predictability of this emotion.
When anger becomes so familiar because we have under-delivering of high expectations of ourselves or others, we begin to continue to find reasons to stay upset. We feed the cycle over and over again because it is comfortable and feels safe.
Yet, do we grow when we are uncomfortable? No. Does our mind garden get enough nutrients when we begin letting anger weeds take over the fertility of the soil and the bounty of the harvest? No. Are we happy when we are in perpetual states of anger? No. Does extended periods of anger lead to dis-ease? Yes.
We know this because Anger lives in the Liver and Liver detoxifies the body of drugs and alcohol. One coping mechanism for anger is to drink alcohol. Alcohol also targets the liver and is associated with increased aggression, anger and hostility. If someone who struggles with anger and/or alcohol begins to focus on the root of their dis-ease, deep seated healing will occur.