What Lies on the Dark Side of the Ego?
We are beings of light, color, sound and love. Our physical bodies radiate and integrate different frequencies of light. Thus, we receive light in many forms. When we are in alignment with our Spirit, we feel as if our cup is overflowing. We notice we have healthy boundaries set, our relationships are improving, our creativity is free-flowing and we feel charged and energized rather than repressed or depressed. However, our light casts a shadow, and when ignored can allow complications with communication, compassion and coherence. We call this our Shadow Self, and it is the dark side of our Ego — our need for speed to survive in the 3D. Our shadow self represents our misalignments with Spirit. In this article, I will refer to our misalignments as the pieces of our personality we cannot directly see, the parts of us we have disowned.
Our Shadow Self is the parts of your personal reality you are keeping in the shadows, rather than shedding light on them. These parts are parts we may find dislike in while interacting with others. These pieces are the pieces of ourselves we are refusing to take ownership for. Whether it be passive aggressive tendencies, anger, rudeness, pride… when we butt heads with an idea about how someone else is acting, or we butt heads with others because we see something we do not like or what to see reflected back to us, it is really your own inner plane reflecting back to you that which you may shed more light on. By shedding light on it, recognizing it’s a projection of your shadow onto others we can do the inner work to alleviate any suffering or attachment to that part of our shadow.
By disowning parts of ourselves, these parts within turn against us. We may do or say things we later regret because we would not normally do them. We may transmit negative energy to others close to us and attempt to project ownership to others for our primitive and negative impulses such as desiring to gain more power leading to greed, egotism, envy and fits of anger.
In order to find alignment, awareness is guided to our misalignments. When we are suppressing our shadow self, it has a tendency to want to be projected and brought to light. You may be at work and a co-worker is performing a task in a way that comes off as passive aggressive. This tendency gets under your skin, so much so, you passive aggressively address it with them. Now, is their behavior truly passive aggressive? Or are you projected that reality onto them because your shadow self is being stuffed down and ignored?
Our personality and the roles we play day to day are called our Ego. Our Ego brings to attention, anything that may help or harm our ability to survive this doggy dog world. Our Ego will hide parts of itself it does not want to let go of, old programming that has served us and helped us to get to where we at. When therapy is begun, the Shadow Self is typically the first on the checklist. We also have a Higher Self and our Higher Self helps guide us through these shadows by shedding light on them. Our Higher Self may be accessed through spiritual practices like; Meditation, Yoga, Breath-work, Crystal healing, Sound healing, Prayer, Visualizations, Journaling and so on and so forth.
Journaling is an excellent way to have a dialogue between your Higher Self and Shadow Self. When we feel spells of low self esteem and depression, we are being dragged down into the depths of ourselves to focus on our Shadows before resurfacing.
And similar styles of tapping into the quantum field, cosmic mind and your highest and most best good. Our Ego is worried about 3D finite and tangible things. Once we do spiritual work to dissolve our Ego and re-write our story, we find that our higher self has been a spiritual guide for us all along helping guide us back to our spiritual path in healing and happiness. For as humans, we are more than flesh encapsulated egos — we are part of a collective consciousness of the cosmic mind and we have been given opportunities on our journey here is to re-member.
Practicing ignorance of our shadow self can harm our relationships with ourselves, partners, family members and dear friends. It can also negatively impact our professional relationships and our abilities to be sovereign and self-leading. What we deny in ourselves, we see reflected back to us from others as a projection. Our shadow is a defense mechanism for our ego, it is a shield to protect our masks (how we perceive ourselves).
Working with our shadow allows us to dive into psychological projections of ourselves onto others by bringing the disowned parts of ourselves into direct light (awareness). We begin by recognizing our behavior, how we view ourselves and parts of ourselves it is time to own and connect to. It is a way of finding our authentic self by relinquishing the false identity we have built for ourselves to hide behind.